Empress Sassy

posted by EmpressSassy on Oct 15

I have come to realize lately there are a few expressions that I absolutely loathe.  They are said to me a lot based on my life and I’ve just about reached my limit.  I have, however, learned the true definition of the expressions. 

1.  I know how you feel:  This just pisses me off.  No you don’t and if you have had similar experiences in your life are you telling me you felt the exact same emotions that I am feeling?  I’m thinking no.  What you might say is that you can possibly relate to my experience and if I need to talk you are available.  This I could and would respond to warmly and appreciatively.  Just saying, “I know how you feel” is a flippant way to say, “I don’t really know, but it sounds as if I care.” 

2.  You need to be the bigger person:  What this means is whatever the situation is and whoever you are about to deal with, we need you to just deal with it and that’s it.  The other person  obviously is worthless and we have just washed our hands of them and we are dumping them on you.  We know you will deal with them and not let us down (no pressure of course). 

3.  I’m sure it will get better, just hang in there:  Yeah, thanks for the non-committal, bullshit, I really don’t care, but I’m pretending to, superficial response to a bad situation.  Really?  Why don’t you just not say anything at all Okay? 

I have more, but right now those are the main three that are really just on my last nerve.  My life is good, but not always perfect as some of you know.  I wouldn’t change anything, but the one thing I don’t care for is people who don’t know me; trying to assist me in “figuring out my life”.  Give me a break. 

Keep your expressions to yourself please!

posted by EmpressSassy on Oct 14

I’m not bashing diesel trucks don’t get me wrong (although I don’t love them in general), but I don’t care if you own one or not, but do you have to drive your big, loud, rumble-noise makin’ truck through a drive through?  Seriously, can’t you just show some courtesy and go in so others can hear?

I had this huge, diesel truck behind me in the drive through at McDonalds today and it was so loud I couldn’t even hear myself to place my order, let alone the person through the ordering window couldn’t hear my order.  I kept having to yell my items back to her and she had two of them wrong.  The entire time this obnoxious truck is just rumbling like a cement truck full of gravel behind me.

Now, here is the classic part that I love; he pulls up to place HIS order and what does he do?  He turns off his big, stupid truck so he can place his order in silence.  Yep, he doesn’t want to disturb HIS order.   Screw the other people in front of him or behind him, but low and behold he wants to be able to hear when he places HIS order.  Unbelievable - I was cracking up.  Can you give me a break?  Needless to say once his order was placed he cranks the engine back up and the noise is once again loud and obnoxious for the next customer.

What is wrong with people and their manners?  If you are smart enough to know YOU can’t hear buddy, think about it, others probably can’t too!  Lovin’ me some stupid people.

posted by EmpressSassy on Sep 21

What is it about Mondays?  Maybe we just dread them and it creates the mood right?  I’ve often said I’d like to start my work week on Tuesday, but something tells me eventually Tuesday would become Monday!

Started with losing my keys only to find out that I didn’t really lose them and we started out late.  Then I had an altercation with someone that was utterly ridiculous and unnecessary and I completely lost respect for them.  Who would have thought to, but oh well, lost about 30 seconds of energy on that one.   Oh, but I did learn something today, egotism is still alive and well! 

Then I’m forced to talk to an idiot that has a defaulted loan on a variable annuity and has not made a single, payment since the inception of the loan dated 1998 and wants to know why he should be in default.  Really?  If this was a house you would not be living in it.  If this was a car you would not be driving it.  You dumb ass.

Loving me some Monday so far how about you guys?  Top it off with the gloom of no sun and we are good to go!  Is it Friday yet?  Am I off work yet?  Counting the days……………..counting the days…………..

posted by EmpressSassy on Aug 16

Girls I need some help on this one!  Aren’t there unspoken rules of etiquette when you break up?  Well we all know there are right?  If it’s not a great breakup and if it’s been someone that was close to your family and they have ties then things sometimes get awkward, but here is the thing.  If the person has made it clear that they want nothing to do with you and in turn you have agreed that this is how it should be, then shouldn’t this mean family as well?

If said person sees a relative in public and here is the thing; if it wasn’t even a close relative, but a, oh I don’t know brother-in-law that didn’t even really remember you, do you really have to walk up, tap him on the shoulder and talk to him about you ex-girlfriends family?  See, I think not.  Personally I think you can just get your shopping items and walk on out.  You don’t NEED to be asking personal questions about his family or her family, it’s none of your business.  You certainly didn’t care when you were IN the situation now did you?

Aren’t these the rules?  It would be different if you had closed things out on good terms, but honey these people don’t exactly like you or care about what you did to their family member.  You should just stay away from her family and just pretend you don’t see them; trust me they will do the same if they see you first.  They don’t WANT to talk to you.  I promise.

Ladies am I right?  He doesn’t need to be asking about the exes family members and just “checking up” on anyone if he can’t seem to want to talk to the ex directly at all, am I right?  This was his big idea so shouldn’t he just live in his little world and stick to his 5 or 10 year plan and move on?

Now we have to hear about his personal life and small updates when in reality we didn’t want to even know he still lived on this planet.  Why?  Because he made it clear that this is how it should be and then he walks up and talks to a family member.  Can I get a hell no please?

Just had to put it out there as this guy is just wrong!

posted by EmpressSassy on Aug 12

I have learned after 42 years of life when it’s truly best to keep my mouth shut.  Do I always do this?  Of course not, but when I know the person will not listen to me then why waste my time.  I have come to realize there are certain personalities in this world that just do not mesh with mine and I’m learning to just work around them.  Sometimes I want to walk up to them and say, “WTF is wrong with you” but I don’t.

I’m fortunate that I am surrounded with a solid family unit and a few friends that really care about me and come through for me when I am in need.  I am saddened to know people that live in a selfish, cold world that only think of themselves and don’t go out of their way to consider others. 

Wouldn’t it be nice to live in a world that you only think of yourself and not give a damn about consequences?  Wouldn’t it be nice to think the world truly revolves around only you?  Honestly it wouldn’t to me, but I know people that live this way and I see people that think they can just say what they want and do what they want with no thought of others.  It just makes me sick.

I’m tired of people that think they can just live their life with no thoughts of others and no consequences for others.  I’m sorry that you have no family unit and that you have no one to show you how to love or how to give, and the fact that you want to treat people like objects is just not my problem.  You want to live your life in a world of objects instead of friends and family, so be it, but leave me out of it.

To all of these selfish-minded people please go live your life with your one track mind of, “this is how it should be, kids are annoying, technology is a must, family is overrated, schedules are unnecessary, life is all fun and games.”  More power to you, but live your life in your own world and stay away from the happy, family people that are tired of you complaining about what we think is normal.  Keep your mouth shut and move on.

Yes, I feel better!

posted by EmpressSassy on May 15

OK, so it rained right?  A lot in our city and it came hard and fast.  Well it basically flooded our city.  Why, well our streets are just a mess anyway and the drainage sucks.  That being said the city was underwater when I crossed the bridge at 6:20 PM tonight.

Now, we have police, fire departments and EMS all over the city right?   They can look out their windows and see the rain I presume, however as I drive through the city and see all the flooded areas (trying to get home) I do not see one, single policeman, fireman or EMS driver blocking traffic, assisting traffic or even out and about accessing the situation.  I did see one cop on a main road (finally) and he had his car turned sideways; as if to stop traffic in front of the mini-lake on the road.  Seriously?  Did you think people really need you to turn your car this way to make the statement?  How about you just get out and being directing traffic dude?

There was one main road that had become a river; right smack in front of a fire station and there wasn’t a fireman to be seen.  There were actually citizens getting out and directing traffic. 

The other joke was that my main road is blocked, OK so I take the normal detour; which I’d like to point out is the detour that is used when my road is under construction that the city uses.  They actually route traffic this way with signs.  So, I drive back this neighborhood and as I’m rounding one curve I notice the street is also flooded.  I don’t know this and I’m passing this lady.  She actually says out loud, “Oh look here comes another idiot down our street.”  Well I was already pissed as this was my third detour so I just rolled my window down and replied back, “Well excuse me &!#%#%, this is the city detour when Daisy Lane is blocked so I am supposed to come this way and how the hell would I know it was flooded until I got back here.” 

I told Jerry I hardly EVER just yell at people, but there was no reason for her to be out walking all high and mighty in her little neighborhood, excuse me; run-down, trashy-ass, neighborhood (yes, I typed it) and smarting off to me in my Jeep.  So, I just felt the need to express my side of the issue.  If you could have seen the look on her face.  When I turned around in a drive way she was still standing there just looking at my car.  I sped past her and I think I splashed a little.  What a pity; I will take the expedite pass to Hell, I’m sorry it was worth it.

It’s rain people, it happens, the sky opens, it falls down from the clouds.  Slow you butt down, drive safely, don’t follow people so close and you won’t have a wreck.  I saw at least 4 before I got home.  If there is flooding; deal with it and deal with the delays and DON’T do stupid things like go through the water.  I saw a white Mustang floating in the mini-lake on a main road.  Really?  You thought a Mustang could handle the big water?  Are you just stupid?

Stupid people have stupid things happen to them and then I’m amazed that they say, “I just don’t know why that happened.”  Give me a break.  Again, it’s rain.  Deal with it or stay in the flippin’ house!

posted by EmpressSassy on May 14

Seriously?  Noah had a makeup game tonight at 7PM and they notified us at 5 PM.  NICE.  As if working parents can just make all that happen so quickly.  We both work in another state, we have to get Noah from across town, get home to get the soccer clothes (which weren’t even clean from the Monday game as we had no idea we needed them) and get him there by 7PM.  No plans for supper as again, we didn’t know.

I emailed the assistant coach and said, “Sorry, we won’t make it, we can’t.”  I hate it too, because I believe in team effort and not showing up makes the other kids suffer.  He mentioned the coach didn’t make many calls so they would be very short.

I called the YMCA to complain and it turns out he has known for at least a week, but he may not have checked his emails.  Why did this guy sign up to coach, can anyone tell me please?  His child has zero interest in playing, this guy doesn’t get paid and he SUCKS as a coach and has only made it to one game and was actually a no show at the last game. 

We went to our first T-ball practice Wednesday night and thank goodness we have two real coaches that want to be there, had a plan and actually seemed to care about the kids and go figure; had rules and schedules in their hands!  How impressive.  We have decided to just write off soccer this year; some years you get a good coach and some years you get a bad coach.  What a shame this guy thought he would waste our time and money (this isn’t a cheap thing to pay for and my sister paid for soccer thank you very much) and just half a** coach this team.

I got the next make up game from the YMCA so I don’t have to rely on this guy.  We are ready and we’ll have our plans mapped out.  No more 2 hour surprise “get ready” emails!

posted by EmpressSassy on Apr 14

This will probably make me sound old-fashioned and prudish to say the least, but its something I want to get on my soap box about, so why not here on my blog.  

I have an issue with young girls today that sleep over at boys home who still live with their parents.  Now, I don’t have an issue if you are a single girl and you choose to sleep with your boyfriend at whatever age, at his house, apartment, whatever if he lives on his own.  That is your decision and your business because you are an adult, making your own decisions at that point.    It’s the parent thing that gets me.  Here is a parent that is condoning two kids and allowing them to sleep together before they are married.  I’m talking kids in a range from 18 to lets say 23 – 25 years of age.  What is up with this?  In my day and age we certainly weren’t allowed to have our boyfriends “sleep over” for the night and I would never have even thought of sleeping over at my boyfriend’s house. 

Do you wake up in the morning and just walk into the kitchen with these parents and have breakfast?  “Hey I just had sex with your son, down the hall, it was wicked so could you fix me some pancakes, I’m famished?”   

Do parents allow it and just ignore it as if it’s not going on?  Do they just let the kids go on their merry way and act as if this isn’t really happening?  Do we NEED more young parents in the world when protection isn’t used and “accidents” occur?  Yes, you can argue they are going to have sex regardless so why not give them a safe place to do it, but then again do we need to teach a little restraint at this age?  Would it hurt? Trust me I can discuss the woes of young parenting from many angles.   

If they are using protection is it just OK to allow them to do this day after day, weekend after weekend in this non-married situation.  I have to ask this question too; if your child breaks up with the current love interest, how many do you let parade into your house before you admit that maybe this is an issue? 

Sadly, I have not lived a perfect life and I have made my share of mistakes.  I have tried to learn from these mistakes and move forward.  As a parent when you see your children doing things you must try to lead them down a better road.  I can’t imagine just allowing my child to have a person in the house, down the hall, having sex.  It just doesn’t seem to be the right thing to condone.  

I may get different opinions on this and that’s fine, but for me this is jus what works (or in this case doesn’t work for me).  I especially don’t think it’s proper for a young girl to go to a boy’s house and sleep at his parent’s house.  It doesn’t look good and it doesn’t set a good example for that girl.  If your child is in college and living at home then I understand they have limitations, but there has to be rules.  If you child is not in college at 22 - 24 and living at home and is having girls come over to sleep with him; I seriously think you have more issues than just this one.  I think it’s time Jr. finds a real job and moves out! 

posted by EmpressSassy on Apr 7

OK, so Jerry went on facebook to keep up with his family and I think that is cool.  My niece keeps in touch with her college and high school friends and she actually does this and I think that’s cool too.  I was told I really needed to get on facebook because my blog just wasn’t enough.

Here are my issues with facebook.  If you are on there and you start to get request for friends you have this issue when you want to say no.  Especially when you start to get all these request from high school friends.  What is up with that?  It’s bad enough when you get request from people in your current life you don’t want to say yes to, but here are people from what, 25+ years and they are like,”Hey, want to be my friend?” 

Hell no, are you kidding me?  Did you speak to me in high school?  Did you even look at me?  Are we supposed to let this stuff go?  I guess, but why now?  Where have you been for 25 years and just because this web thing was created, NOW you want to look me up and what? talk to me?  I don’t think that’s what it is really.  I think they just want to see where you work, what you are doing and if you are successful.  Cynical of me?  Why yes it is, but again, did they email me or call me in the past 25 years?  No, they didn’t so why now?  I wouldn’t be that kind of person to just let them “view me” now.  I have no desire to see or check on these people because of the same reason I didn’t back then; they bored me then too. 

I would just not be comfortable with people just being out there and having them read things about me and see things about me.  If it works for you that’s great, but it just doesn’t work for me.  My blog works for me.  I can say things, speak my mind and if you want to debate or discuss that is fine, but I don’t get too personal and I don’t post personal pictures for the world to see.

Anyway, the whole everyone wanting to “be your friend” just cracks me up from the high school grave and beyond.  It makes no sense to me.  Some of them too, I think they just want to up their friend numbers as well. 

Used for it’s purpose I think it’s great and for those of you using it for that purpose - I applaud you (my friends included of course!), but this need to add up the friends or to stalk people……….just stop it!

posted by EmpressSassy on Mar 29

When I joined Facebook the first thing Jacob did was throw a picture of me on the page.  Now, he knows I hate pictures of myself and I had asked him not to do it.  As always we fought about it for about 20 minutes and then the picture was removed.  Because I think he respects me and likes me as a friend I think to myself he won’t do it again.  Low and behold I pull up the page tonight and there is another picture of me again (one that I find not flattering at all). 

Of course I’m furious not only because I hate the picture, but more so because he did it to me again.  When I call him instead of just taking the picture off he has to throw out to me that I’m a “control freak”.  Not cool.

When you have friends and they have issues, despite what those issues are you are supposed to respect those issues.  If they have a fear of frogs you certainly wouldn’t stick a frog in their backpack now would you?  If they decide to confess their undying love to someone and you KNOW it’s ridiculous and you tell them, BUT they do it anyway would you be there to clean up the mess?  Yes you would.  Friends do and respect what needs to be done.  They don’t tease, mess with and humiliate them in front of others knowing it will go against their friends insecurities. 

If you don’t have any insecurities or feelings in your soul then that is good for you, but friends respect and treat friends as they should and in return they get it back no matter what.  When the chips are down that person will be there no matter what.  You have to ask yourself, “Would you take this person to battle?”  If the answer is hands down yes then this person is your true friend.  If you falter with your answer then they probably aren’t your true friend.  I have a close circle of friends for this reason so I can try to be a true friend.  I have acquaintances, but true friends are hard to find and when you do I try to hold on to them.

I don’t do things that they don’t like or purposely try to aggravate them.  I am not a control freak for not wanting something personal of me out there posted to the world.  Last time I checked this was my business, not someone else’s choice.

Sorry Jacob, I don’t agree.