Empress Sassy

posted by EmpressSassy on Jul 26

I’ve learned over my years of life that your gut instinct is right most of the time.  When I say most of the time; what I mean is if you feel something chances are its probably right.  If you think someone is cheating on you or they have lost feelings for you, they probably have.  If you think someone is mad at you, they probably are mad.  If you think someone is up to something that you know well enough to know this about them, chances are it’s probably true.  Gut instinct is something I have gone with my entire life; most of my family has too and let me tell you it is usually right on.

Humans are humans and they have distinct personality types.  They may change a little as time goes by, but for the most part people are who they are and they are readable if you just take the time to do just that; read them.  So often we listen to people, but we don’t really hear anything they say to us.  Often within a conversation there are underlying messages if you just pay attention to the person who is talking to you.  They want you to know things, they put them out there vaguely, quietly, maybe hoping that someone will hear them for once, but for the most part we only hear what we want to hear.

Your intuition can tell you so much and save you from a lot on anguish and trouble if you tune into it and believe in it.  If you feel scared or worried about a person or a situation chances are you have a reason to feel this way and don’t let someone else talk you out of these feelings.  If you don’t trust someone then you have a reason to review the person further and own that feeling.  Trust has to be earned and if you don’t feel it with someone new then go with your gut feeling.

So often people are taken in by other people, lied to, cheated on, stolen from and it’s because someone says, “Well I just didn’t want to think he/she could be that kind of a person.  Well they can.  Now, I’m not saying the whole world is an evil place, but what I am saying is listen to someone when they talk or when they tell you about their past or even their present life. Listen to them.  Pay attention.

Intuition is something that can save you from many mistakes.  Listen to yourself!  You know yourself better than anyone else knows you.  Keep that in mind the next time your alarm goes off and you think something just doesn’t feel right in a situation.  Slow down and think about it before you make a hasty decision.

posted by EmpressSassy on Jun 16

Summer is upon us and our family has a slip n slide that we get out and attempt to use.  Now, you’ve seen it right? It’s not rocket science, you just lay it out, turn on the hose and slide on it.

I watched the boys just go hog wild on this thing and I thought OK this will be a piece of cake.  They were running back from the garage and jumping onto this piece of plastic and just sliding down to the mini-pool of frigid water as if it was the slickest thing since the ice storm of 76′, and it was hilarious. 

Diving head first and never looking back seemed to be quite harmless until it became my turn.  I started my run and when I got closer to the yellow plastic; fear overtook my brain and it began to tell my body, “We are SO not doing this you idiot.  You can’t just dive onto the hard ground onto a small piece of yellow plastic.  What if you don’t slide?  What if you roll off onto the grass?  What if you break a body part - we are NOT 20 anymore!”  I stopped dead in my tracks and froze like a iceberg!  Much to my dismay and many catcalls from my family. 

This is what I would envision my slide would look like; butt all up in the air, body all stuck to the plastic and not being able to finish my slide!  Why I have no idea, but I have a fear of the slip n slide!  I am going to try an conquer this over the summer, but I’m not sure I can.  My first thought is that we had it on flat ground and for some reason in my head it should be on a hill or slope to make this an easier process.  Not that this mattered to the boys in our family, but for me, I’m needing the slope!

Wish me luck to overcome my fear, but I am hoping to overcome my yellow plastic, slip n slide fear!  Make light if you will, but when is the last time you old people has really tried it?  PS:  The water is as cold as a North Pole waterfall just in case you are curious.  That doesn’t exactly make you want to dive in either!

posted by EmpressSassy on Jun 15

Carrie this will make you feel much better about your incident at the ball field!

A friend of mine was telling me the other night a fight broke out at the t-ball game (keep in mind that t-ball is 3 – 5 age group).  She wasn’t even sure what started the issue and it doesn’t matter. What truly matters is that a parent pulled a knife.  Seriously pulled a knife, but wait it gets better, to one up that parent another parent pulled a gun.  OK, welcome to crazy town, what is wrong with these parents?  

If you have ever coached any type of child team you know from experience the kids are just there to have fun and it’s the parents that cause the issues.  Inevitably a parent starts yelling at the coach or the ref about some injustice toward their child or team and the party gets started.  It’s ridiculous and unnecessary, but it happens every season and you can almost guarantee a parent per team.  Most of the time the child has no clue the altercation is happening.  Again, they are just playing the game and having fun.   

Sadly you also have that “ULTIMATE COACH” that thinks he is coaching the US Olympic team and living vicariously through the kids.  We all loathe this man and love to also make fun of this man don’t we?  He totally exists in so many leagues!   

What I really want to know with so many parents is that do you ever ask your children if they want to play these sports?  I know I ask.  I never start a new season without asking and we have one rule; if we start any sport we finish the season.  If Noah doesn’t want to play a sport I would not push him.  We are just not into the scholarship push and it’s not that important.  I understand that college is expensive and for some it may be the only option but you MUST understand that the child must also be happy in life and there are other avenues they can take other than sports.  Heaven forbid we would push academics as we push sports right?  

Now from time to time tempers flare and words are said and that is normal.  Rules are rules and they need to be followed.  You have cheaters, Ultimate Coaches, bad nights, bad parents and just things that happen. For this, exceptions are to be expected and apologies are made and the evening moves on.  However, knives and guns being brought around children’s events?  I’m thinking these people need to maybe find a new sport to attend and it more than likely won’t involve children.  

Talk to your child, make sure they are on board with the sport they are playing and for the love of Pete make sure THEY are having fun when they are playing the sport.  If not, it’s not worth it.  It’s about fun, learning and still being a family affair.  Not yelling, fighting and dragging your kids to an event. 

posted by EmpressSassy on Jun 2

Do you ever approach someone and get the “up and down?”  You know what I’m talking about right?  Instead of looking at you directly they look you up and down as if to size you up.  They are checking out your appearance as if this matters first and foremost.  I loathe this type of person and if I get sized up by a person with my initial contact they could tell me that I have just won the lottery and I probably wouldn’t hear them, as I really don’t listen to them at all. 

Why should I give this person any of my time when it’s clear their priorities are clearly superficial based on their up and down sizing of me at our initial contact.  It happens more often than you think and again, these people get nothing from me from this point on.  I also think less of them from this point on as a person.  It is a huge pet peeve of mine.  I never do the up and down when I approach someone. 

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not perfect and I have thought to myself, “What was this person thinking wearing that to work because we have not installed poles to my knowledge! Ha ha   However; if they walk up to talk to me they STILL do not get the up and down look from me!  It’s just showing no tact.

I have been at church (old church) on several occasions and gotten the ‘up and down’ from several older members. Really, well thank you Ms. Christian and praise Jesus to you too, I don’t think that is what he wants us to base our thoughts on today, but we can move on now can’t we?  People crack me up too because they have no idea they are even doing it for the most part.  It’s rude, but they do it as if they are inspectors for society or something.  I don’t think so, there is no dress code of life and if there was I don’t remember seeing a list of officers with your name on it.

Granted, again I think we all wish people would look in the full length mirror before departing the house, but they don’t and that’s just life.  I still don’t need the up and down from some stranger before they can start a basic conversation with me.  My mother can critique me, as that is what mothers are supposed to do, but I don’t need a stranger judging me before we begin a dialogue. 

Pay attention at work, church, school and see how many “up and down” offenders you have in your world.  They’re out there, pay attention.  When I’m feeling sassy and I get the up and down sometimes I will just say, “What do I have something on my shirt?”  That always throws them off as they have to stop and realize they were checking you out.  It’s awkward, but just fun to make them realize they are doing it to you.  Might as well have fun with the tactless people of the world!  

posted by EmpressSassy on Jun 2

For the most part if you know me you know I don’t really care what people think about me or about what I do in my life.  I think the biggest pet peeve would be if I haven’t done something wrong and someone thinks I have; that really ticks me off.  I don’t like the injustice card played against me, but that would be an entirely different blog entry wouldn’t it?

I’m a complete freak though sometimes when it comes to people thinking I might be the freak!  Let me explain.  There is a guy in my neighborhood that walks his two beagles every day, twice a day without fail.  He appears to be a fairly nice guy, he wears his headphones, but he does the friendly hello as he walks by each time.  Oddly enough he has a family member that plays against Noah at soccer and we ran into him on Monday nights as well.  He didn’t see us, we just saw him and Noah noticed it was the dog walking guy!  I guess that’s a big deal when you’re 5 to see someone from your neighborhood! 

I often wonder if people notice other people the way I notice people.  I mean the guy walks around the neighborhood twice, daily so he must notice the same people all the time right?  Is he thinking this lady has too many cats in her window?  She needs to cut her grass more often?  Whatever, I just wonder if people think weird things like me, but maybe they don’t.

Anyway, I walk outside last night to take a walk and neighbor, dog walking guy was just getting ready to pass my drive way.  All I could think to myself was if I start walking now it will appear that I am following this guy.  He doesn’t normally see me walking so it appears that I came out of my house right at the time that he was at my drive way and that just felt weird to me.  I tried to stall a little and then walked slow, but I still caught up with him somewhat.  I saw him go into his house (didn’t know where he lived until now) and all I could think was great, this guy thinks I’m following him.  Why?  Why do I think this man thinks this when in reality he probably didn’t give it a thought?  This also stems from the fact that I hate the desperate/stalker/female type and I don’t ever want to appear to be that girl either. 

I just don’t like to bother people or have people thinking I’m some crazy neighbor.  I don’t want to be the crazy, single neighbor that appears to come out of nowhere and follow people! Ha ha, when in reality I’m just a girl walking down the road.  Yep, this is me paranoid girl taking a walk and feeling like a freak.  I watch too many criminal shows.  If that was a guy following me I’d be freaking out!  I already have my house locked up like Fort Knox due to the crime issues going on! 

Long story short, this is how much thinking effort I put into one person that I don’t even know, but then again what else is there to do when you’re walking other than think about random things!  Yep, I’m a freak, but I’m a harmless freak.  I’m just curious about people and wonder if the world really thinks these things or am I alone in my demented little mind. 

posted by EmpressSassy on Jun 2

It’s funny when you’re a kid; let’s say about 13 or 14 years old you can’t even imagine relating to an adult or even thinking that you can exist in their world right?  They talk about their houses, yard work, bills, whatever, but you just tune them out.  It’s not in your direct world and all you can think to yourself is, “I will never be like them or they are so different from me.” 

I took a walk last night and three houses down from me I saw my Jr. High School, homeroom teacher cutting his grass.  He is probably in his late 60’s by now, but he is my neighbor.  He did the friendly neighbor waive to me and I thought to myself, how strange that this man is now my neighbor.  He has no idea that I was in his homeroom and I thought he was a total dork at the time.  Now we are all grown up, neighbors and if we talk it’s about our street, crime in our area and we are on the exact same social level in life.  At 13 I would not have been able to imagine that this man would be my neighbor and we would chat as friends.  You could at 13?

I can at any time to go church and see various teachers and have the same type of conversations.  They may have taught me in school and not even remember me, but now we talk as if we are on the same adult level at this point.  It’s funny how things change.  Back then they probably thought, this child may not make it or what a smart butt this one is! 

Time allows us to “catch up” with each other and the playing field levels out.  We hit this magic middle age where everyone just gels and the world becomes the same.  Even in your early 20’s I think you still see the world differently, but you start to rollover that hill after about 28-29 and all of a sudden people and things just start to make sense.  Your mom and dad get a little smarter again.  The things on the news start to scare you.  If you become a parent you realize that things in the world aren’t so pretty and nice all the time and you fear for your child constantly.  It’s reality; it slaps you awake doesn’t it? 

I always find the people that we begin to talk to again just funny.  The high school people that you swore you wouldn’t ever talk to again.  You see them out, they are married with kids and there you are at the same soccer field, football field, etc. and your kids are going to co-exist.  It’s time to put away the memories and the past and just be parents. 

The parents of kids you knew in high school or the teachers that treated you as if you would NOT make it and yet here you are; living in a house, raising kids, making it.  It’s all one level playing field in the later walk of life and everyone is just trying to make it day-by-day aren’t they?  We are all human just trying to make it happen for our families and hoping we can stay happy and healthy.   It’s nice that life eventually evens out that playing field.  If we could just get a child at 13 or 14 to realize that some day soon that horrid teacher or really bad kid at school might just be your friendly neighbor one day soon!  It’s all good.

posted by EmpressSassy on May 31

I have always had a theory about criminal shows on TV and I still believe in my theory.  I have read a  lot about serial killers, mass murderers, and other various crime stories.  Why, mostly because of they psychology behind the killer’s mind.  The thought that a human can be so evil is not only scary, but fascinating. 

Anyway, from what I have read, some or even a lot like to have that element of fame attached to their name.  They like to see their name in print or hear their story on the news.  I have always thought that all these shows on TV, CSI, Criminal Minds, and other shows just fuel future criminals. 

Most of them are based on “true stories where the names have been changed”, but we are some what glorifying the bad guy by putting their horrific acts on TV for all the world to watch over and over.  So, here is this “wanna be” sicko and he thinks to himself, “Well I can do something similar to this guy and they might even put my story on CSI some day.” 

It’s a never-ending glorification process, yet we constantly watch because we are fascinated by this type of individual.  I admit it, I watch because I’m amazed and I can’t believe people like this really exist.  My theory has always been though, some watch to learn and go forth to do bad things.  What if this is true?

There are some shows like Criminal Minds that I have watched and I think to myself, “This should not be on TV, this is rough.”  It’s fascinating work to watch them figure out the mind of a criminal, but yet do people really need to watch this kind of stuff on TV?  It’s a win/lose for for everyone.

Just a theory; it’s not like the TV Networks will change because of a theory and it’s not like people will stop watching the shows.  It’s just a thought.

posted by EmpressSassy on May 27

We hung our patio lights last night. Well, we hung them in our canopy that we have set up on the patio and I cleaned up all the patio furniture to get ready for the holiday weekend.  We had new lights this year; butterflies and fireflies and they were quite festive if I do say so myself.  We did the big light up and I got the official approval from Noah that they were hung perfectly! 

I love the beginning of summer when the weather is cool in the mornings and the evenings.  I love getting the yard ready for grilling and hanging out in the yard.   Noah has his new play set this year and hopefully we can hang out a lot more this year around the house grillin’ and just chillin’!  I love to grill supper; it makes it so much easier at night to just grill out and eat under the canopy.  It’s less mess and much easier for Noah to just play outside while I get things ready.  We have our basic recipes; burgers and dogs and then we have our specialties – chicken burritos! Do you have a favorite grilling recipe you want to share?  If so put it out here! 

I can’t wait to start playing our hillbilly golf and corn hole again this year.  We were so busy last year that we didn’t get to hang out much, but I’m vowing to stay home more this year and do the back yard thing!  Noah likes to be at home and it’s just nice to hang out and do things with the family.   

Hope everybody has a great holiday weekend and enjoys the super, summer weather!  Make sure you go outside and enjoy the unofficial start of summer! 

posted by EmpressSassy on May 25

What does your IPod say about you?  If someone found your IPod and began to search through it what would they think about the mystery owner?  Do you think they could they easily target you as a head-banger, classic musical lover, or country lover only?  Would they have no idea because you are so diverse? 

Mine would be fairly easy to decipher I think; I have everything from country to hard rock all the way to Fisher Price music from when Noah was little.  Mine screams average mom that has a wide variety of music choices from her past and present.  Although I don’t go past the last 90’s much.  I don’t like today’s new music much except select, new songs as they come out by various artists. 

I also have songs on my IPod that I don’t really like so some people might think they have things in common with me, when in reality I’m just too lazy to delete the songs!  I guess they could check my recently played section or my play list to really get to know me right?

I just wonder if you could really tell something about that person’s personality just by viewing their IPod.  I have movies saved too so that might help with getting to know me too.  Just a thought I had today when I had my music on shuffle; it was cracking me up going from Run DMC to Tom Jones!  Sort of all over the board with my music taste, but that is just me. 

Music is a big part of some folk’s personality; at least in my world anyway.  It would be fun to view random IPods to see if you could guess some things about that person’s personality and see how close you come to being correct.

posted by EmpressSassy on May 17

It’s an argument of the ages; our mothers ironed everything from sheets to undergarments.  Our children don’t want to iron anything.  We are somewhere in the middle.  What is the answer?

I have been wishy-washy on this subject depending on my mood of course or the attitude of my time restraints, but at the end of my reflections of life I have to make my statement - clothes need to be ironed.

Now I’m not talking all crazy about sheets, undergarments and even casual shorts or clothes you are going to wear when you plan to wash the car, but if you are going to wear it to work, church, school, social gathering then you need to iron it.  People in ironed clothes just look nicer and more presentable.

Now, my niece is reading this right now and she is just thinking to herself, “no this is not the way of life anymore.”  Well it is if you want to look nice and present yourself in a clean and presentable manner.

I was recently at a meeting where 5 - 6 individuals stood in front of me speaking to a group of people.  5 of these individuals looked very professional, cleaned up, ironed clothes and very professional.  One person stood up there to talk in a shirt that looked as if it had been slept in, pants that had been rolled in a ball and this person stood out like a sore thumb.  It does make a statement.  The whole time all I could think was, “Seriously, if you are THAT busy can’t you drop your stuff off at the dry cleaners?” 

Again, you don’t have to iron it all, but at least try to iron the things you will wear in public.  Also think of your children and how they will look during a show at school or in front of a large group of kids. 

To iron or not to iron that is the question. My response is PRESS ON and just let out some steam with the process!