posted by EmpressSassy on Aug 16
Girls I need some help on this one! Aren’t there unspoken rules of etiquette when you break up? Well we all know there are right? If it’s not a great breakup and if it’s been someone that was close to your family and they have ties then things sometimes get awkward, but here is the thing. If the person has made it clear that they want nothing to do with you and in turn you have agreed that this is how it should be, then shouldn’t this mean family as well?
If said person sees a relative in public and here is the thing; if it wasn’t even a close relative, but a, oh I don’t know brother-in-law that didn’t even really remember you, do you really have to walk up, tap him on the shoulder and talk to him about you ex-girlfriends family? See, I think not. Personally I think you can just get your shopping items and walk on out. You don’t NEED to be asking personal questions about his family or her family, it’s none of your business. You certainly didn’t care when you were IN the situation now did you?
Aren’t these the rules? It would be different if you had closed things out on good terms, but honey these people don’t exactly like you or care about what you did to their family member. You should just stay away from her family and just pretend you don’t see them; trust me they will do the same if they see you first. They don’t WANT to talk to you. I promise.
Ladies am I right? He doesn’t need to be asking about the exes family members and just “checking up” on anyone if he can’t seem to want to talk to the ex directly at all, am I right? This was his big idea so shouldn’t he just live in his little world and stick to his 5 or 10 year plan and move on?
Now we have to hear about his personal life and small updates when in reality we didn’t want to even know he still lived on this planet. Why? Because he made it clear that this is how it should be and then he walks up and talks to a family member. Can I get a hell no please?
Just had to put it out there as this guy is just wrong!
August 21st, 2009 at 10:14 am
Yep, that’s just not nice. A wave across the room, or a “hey, how ya doin’? Everybody ok?” is the furthest it should go. Decisions have consequences, people. Good, bad or otherwise. And he made the decision, so he needs to accept the consequences and just go about his happy little life.
August 21st, 2009 at 10:15 am
forgot —
HELL NO!
August 22nd, 2009 at 2:56 pm
Thank you for the support. It’s just not right and I shouldn’t care, but I do. Really? You just couldn’t walk away? Too nosey to just let it go? It just slayed me that he had to act like he was being polite. That is what he would have said, but the reality is that my brother-in-law wouldn’t have noticed him or even cared to have talked to him. He just wanted a “check up” on my family. Let it go, you don’t want to talk to me, so my family needs to be left alone too.