posted by EmpressSassy on Jul 23
There is nothing worse than being out somewhere and hearing your name yelled across the room…..you don’t recognize the voice at first and then you turn, “dang, it’s that person from your past that you really just could have missed and not cared at all.” However, for whatever reason fate has thrust them in your face and you begin the exchanges; How are you, what have you been up too, where do you work now, and then the clincher, “We SO need to get together and do lunch or dinner, OK?” Do they really mean it or is it something they just say?
Some do and some don’t. Here is the thing; I’m told on more than one occasion that I’m “unsocial” because I don’t go out with a lot of people or mingle with various groups. Here is my explanation for about the 100th time. There are so many hours in a day, so many days in a week and so many weeks in a year. When you work 8 hours a day, 5 days a week that sucks up a lot of time right there. Then you throw in responsibilities such as kids, household chores, outside chores, church, school events, family events, etc you are losing time each day.
The small amount of free time you have I try to split it between my family, good friends and sometimes I get crazy and I want time to myself. I certainly don’t want to spend time with someone that I really don’t have a huge investment in nor am I really that close to in my life. I guess my point in a very black and white attitude is that if we can’t truly benefit from one another aren’t we wasting each other’s time?
I also loathe those people that pretend you are the bad guy in a social situation where they KNOW they have did something “shady”, for lack of a better word and you have parted ways. Now me, I have learned to just let people go - out of sight, out of mind. Co-workers for example, I work with them and unless I have connected with them on a deep level (and it happens - Jacob, Traci!) then I don’t have to keep in touch and hang out. If someone leaves the company I say good-bye and believe it or not I do wish them well. That doesn’t mean I’m obligated to see them in 3 months, 6 months, etc. unless I would want to. What I loathe is when they tell other people that I don’t like them for some crazy reason or they “know” the reason I’m not talking to them. Trust me, if they do know that should tell the other people right there the truth. Most of the time I just don’t really have time, nor do I care any longer.
I’m not unsocial, if anything I’m the exact opposite, but here is the thing, it’s with my close friends and my family. What is wrong with that? I’m not into big, huge parties that I don’t know people, nor do I go places where I know people don’t really like me. I don’t like hypocrites! When I do want to have fun I have fun. Unsocial is a word people use against me when I don’t do something they want me to do. It cracks me up.
For those that judge, please continue because you know how much that makes me value you as a person. Says a lot for your character too! For me, I will continue to be me and I don’t expect anything from this group of people. I am good to my close friends and family and in return I expect the same from them. It works for me and I’m not real sure I care what others think, oh wait I know I don’t care!
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