posted by EmpressSassy on May 17
I have stated this before and I will say it again so we are clear. You don’t have to understand my life and you certainly don’t have to come around if you don’t like it, but seriously do you really feel the need to talk about me? Well just for the official record if you feel that you do then fine. I only type this (again) to remind people (again) that it isn’t me that is bothered by this, but I’m merely pointing out the when you live in glass houses you really shouldn’t throw stones.
I’m a single “mom” living in a house, not an apartment. I work 9 - 6. Yeah the hours suck because when I get home after picking up Noah it’s almost 7 and he needs to be in bed around 9:30. Do the math! This gives me 2 1/2 hours to feed him, bathe him and play with him; which is a necessity and lets not forget soccer, T-ball and other various diversions along the way.
I never have the luxury of going to the grocery on weeknights, nor do I ever just stop off at a store to shop on my way home for personal items. All shopping is completed on my lunch hour, nights when Jerry has Noah or weekends.
My weekends are used for laundry, cleaning the house, ironing, shopping, yard work, and lets remember I need to throw in a life somewhere so if we DO decide to plan things then all those weekend things I mentioned still need to get done. At that point I “fit it in” late at night or during the week. I choose not to have a husband so I don’t have the luxury of splitting up the tasks.
Yes, people, Jerry does help me quite a bit, but he also has a home that he has to manage and he has to do that in his spare time. He can’t be at my house 24/7 just because I need things (despite what people think).
All that being said, my house gets messy, cluttered and has it moments but then I do clean it up and right now, on this very Sunday I sit and every room is clean, the laundry is done, ironing is complete, yard work is even done. The cost; I’m exhausted, I haven’t slept since Thursday, I can’t feel most of my body parts and I will be tired for days. Do I sound like a martyr? To some, yes, but honestly, this is just the truth.
I try to get things in order, but tomorrow, the week starts and I just get behind so sue me! If you want to live in my glass house; please stop by, but until you do please watch what you say. Some people live much easier lives than others.
May 18th, 2009 at 10:12 pm
Well honey, I don’t want your life. I’m not gonna talk about you either (today, hehe). It’s hard enough with a husband and working part time, I can’t even imagine having to do all you do and doing it with such finesse and style!
Oh, and with pretty hair and nails too, of course!!
May 18th, 2009 at 11:05 pm
And I know I’m whining, but the thing is, I’m not the only one, but if you don’t like the way I do things then just leave it alone. Please don’t make hurtful comments. Life is what it is and we all make choices. Believe it or not, despite what most think, I am a happy person. I may not have sounded like it in that last entry, but at the end of the day I try hard and when I don’t get all of those things done; I’m OK with it. When I’m laying in the casket I want Noah to say, “Wow she was great, we played, we went hiking, canoeing, picnicing, etc.” Not, “Oh my Grandma she was too busy to hang out with me because she was worried about her house.” What I don’t want is for him to live in a slum and I do try to keep a middle ground. For those that don’t see that then I’m sorry they can’t see me trying. Shame on them.
May 19th, 2009 at 8:27 pm
You’re right - shame on them. Being a parent, and especially a SINGLE parent - is HARD.
May 19th, 2009 at 10:49 pm
Yes, I guess you are learning that too huh? Congrats on your new job and may you be blessed with easier times and a bright future. It’s an uphill battle but may you have many friends and loved ones to support you!