posted by EmpressSassy on Jul 30
I get asked this question a lot. For those of you that know me you’ve probably even asked me the question about a particular person. Now for those of you that are a lot like me you will understand this response.
As you get older in life and become the person you really are, you truly know what you like and what you don’t like. You also learn that you don’t have to put up with people, things, events, etc. that you don’t want to put up with any longer. If you’re invited to something you can say no. If you don’t want to go out of your house on a Sunday afternoon you don’t have to do this, it’s your life.
It’s the same with people. I’m not the merry sunshine personality that feels the need to cater to people that I don’t care for on a daily basis. What does this gain for either party involved? What does fake, cheery, conversation gain for either party except wasted time and energy? Why not just stay away from the people you don’t enjoy being around and save the energy.
Too often however, when you avoid people you hear the question, why don’t you like that person? Why is this important to others? Isn’t it obvious? We are different. I’m not being mean to this person am I? No. I’m not hurting this person by not speaking to them am I? No. Most of the time that person isn’t going to like me either because we are quite different.
In your close environment of work, personal life and family friends you are going to encounter people that you just don’t mesh with and my theory is that’s OK but you don’t have to fake it, but you don’t have to be mean to them either. Indifference is the key. Just let them exist and it shouldn’t effect your world. I’m not in to the fakey, “need to be nice to them” concept”. I wish more people would be less fakey to me.
One great example, my cousin married a fake, tan in a can, uppity, has to have the best, mentions her money, doesn’t eat meat, doesn’t want kids, talks way to much about herself, acts like she’s better than everyone girl. OK, so she comes to a family event and I just stay across the room and try my best not to interact. Why? Because if I do #1 - we will clash and #2 if I do speak I will have to smart off because come on it will just be too easy NOT to. Now, everyone ask me, “Why don’t you like her?” It’s not that I don’t like her, it’s just that she is just completely opposite of me, I don’t have anything to talk about with her and she has made my cousin all the things listed above, when he used to be a normal person. Why would I want to do the “fakey, blah, blah, blah, I love your outfit, oh my gosh, no kidding you do run 12 miles a day, no really, your neighborhood is THE most gorgeous at Christmas, blah, blah, blah” conversation when I can just hang out with my other family in the kitchen and have a better time.
I’m just saying, why do people worry about liking someone or not liking someone? Trust me there are people I do not like. They know who they are and I have valid reasons. There are a couple that I loathe, but most I just avoid because I don’t want to waste my energy on them because life is too short to waste on people that don’t care about me or my life. Think about that, don’t let people get to you that don’t matter. Be happy for who you are and what you are, the hell with the people that don’t matter. Your close circle of family and friends are what truly matters.