Empress Sassy

For anyone that doesn’t know this already here are some rules of life:

• Life is uncertain
• People can be mean and hurtful
• Marriages do fail
• People do fall out of love
• People do fall in love unexpectedly
• You can be happy if you truly want to be happy
• YOU are in control of YOUR emotions
• You cannot choose your family so deal with them
• If you don’t like something change it, but stop complaining about it
• Love hard, play hard and try not to hate anyone
• Life is messy, if you don’t get dirty what is the point?
• Trust, honesty, loyalty; these are traits that you will rarely find in a lot of people.  You’ll be hard pressed to find it in one.
• Surround yourself with a few good friends, don’t try to be friends to everyone.
• Bad things happen; recover and remember to stay strong is the key to survival
• Kids are a gift from God; treat them as such
• Treat others as you would want to be treated
• If you don’t like someone then stay away from them; don’t fuel their fire or give them attention in any way
• Work hard at your job as if you don’t want to lose it. 
• Age is a number; how you feel is up to you.
• Attend church; the sermon will stick in your head and it’s good for you.
• Tell someone you love them as much as you can
• Fall in love at least once if you can; even if you get hurt it’s worth the trip.

Your life is your road trip.  You can take the easy road or the crazy road trip and that’s totally up to you.  You can pull off to the side, you can take a few side roads, but always remember to forge ahead.  Never look back just forge ahead and be happy with your trip.  Memories are there to remember past trips, but moving forward is important for you sanity.  Be happy, life is short.

The sermon at church on Sunday was about forgiveness.  Even if you’re not a religious person you could have learned something from this message.  We all need to learn to forgive right?  We’ve heard this before, but I have to tell you this is one that is tough right?  Our sermon indicated you can actually forgive, but you don’t have to forget.  Let’s get real  you AREN’T going to forget and I understand that forgiving is a step toward healing, but again sometimes it’s hard to “let go.”

I can forgive past wrongs, this is a little easier and I’m working on some of those now. I have to admit when you do let go you do feel so much better about yourself and the ability to feel free. 

What I struggle with is when you have people in your present life and they wrong you and even as you are thinking to forgive them they wrong you again.  How many times do you have to forgive?  When is enough truly enough?  If you have someone with a problem and they won’t get help or won’t see their problems how do you continuously allow them to wrong you and forgive them?  How strong must we be as one person?

Our preacher said, “The person that said time heals all wounds  must have not been hurt very badly.”  I agree.  Time doesn’t make the hurt just go away.  You have to allow forgiveness and let go of the past.  You don’t have to forget.  Memories are apart of who we are, it makes us who we become.  I guess the people in our lives now are where I struggle. 

It’s a tough call to say, “I forgive you.”  More difficult sometimes than to say, “I’m sorry.”  Is there someone you need to forgive?  Is it time to let yourself “let go?”  Life is short, think about how you can try to let go and forgive. It will set you free.

I’ve learned over my years of life that your gut instinct is right most of the time.  When I say most of the time; what I mean is if you feel something chances are its probably right.  If you think someone is cheating on you or they have lost feelings for you, they probably have.  If you think someone is mad at you, they probably are mad.  If you think someone is up to something that you know well enough to know this about them, chances are it’s probably true.  Gut instinct is something I have gone with my entire life; most of my family has too and let me tell you it is usually right on.

Humans are humans and they have distinct personality types.  They may change a little as time goes by, but for the most part people are who they are and they are readable if you just take the time to do just that; read them.  So often we listen to people, but we don’t really hear anything they say to us.  Often within a conversation there are underlying messages if you just pay attention to the person who is talking to you.  They want you to know things, they put them out there vaguely, quietly, maybe hoping that someone will hear them for once, but for the most part we only hear what we want to hear.

Your intuition can tell you so much and save you from a lot on anguish and trouble if you tune into it and believe in it.  If you feel scared or worried about a person or a situation chances are you have a reason to feel this way and don’t let someone else talk you out of these feelings.  If you don’t trust someone then you have a reason to review the person further and own that feeling.  Trust has to be earned and if you don’t feel it with someone new then go with your gut feeling.

So often people are taken in by other people, lied to, cheated on, stolen from and it’s because someone says, “Well I just didn’t want to think he/she could be that kind of a person.  Well they can.  Now, I’m not saying the whole world is an evil place, but what I am saying is listen to someone when they talk or when they tell you about their past or even their present life. Listen to them.  Pay attention.

Intuition is something that can save you from many mistakes.  Listen to yourself!  You know yourself better than anyone else knows you.  Keep that in mind the next time your alarm goes off and you think something just doesn’t feel right in a situation.  Slow down and think about it before you make a hasty decision.

We were at Holiday World on Saturday (what were we thinking) and at the water park changing clothes.  I was in a stall by myself as Noah was with Jerry.  I heard a lady start yelling for someone to grab her son.  I wasn’t sure what was going on and I was dressed so I came out of my stall. 

She came out and looked at me and said did you see where my child went?  He is 18 months old, Thomas the Train shirt and he crawled under the stall and I couldn’t get my door open.  That quick and he was gone.  She was in a panic as any mother would be of course.

We started to tell the attendant and anyone that would listen to help us find this child.  First of all the attendant acted as if we had told her there was too much water on the floor.  Her reaction sucked and the level of urgency was pathetic.  The second thing is that we couldn’t seem to get anyone else to help us.  Maybe 3 or 4 other females helped us start searching for this child.  I even heard one loser woman say, “This isn’t my problem” as she walked away.

20 minutes into this search the child was located and let me tell you he had wandered quite a long distance in this short time and ANYONE could have taken this child.  My heart went out for this mother so much because all I could think was this could be me, it could me by niece, it could be any of us and no one seemed to give a care.

When they met the mother grabbed this child as a mother would and burst into tears and I have to tell you I cried a little too.  I was just a little overwhelmed with what happened.  My sister asked me why I was crying and I just told her it was too much for me.  It broke my heart.  More so that no one seemed to want to help us find the boy.

Thank goodness he was found.  Also during the day at the crazy water play area there were 2 other little girls that were lost and they were no older than 3.  The parents didn’t even seem to care when they hooked up with them.  It was as if they just waited for someone to help them show up.  One lady even let her child back in the madness and went back to her chair. 

I don’t get people and how they choose to let children roam free with all the evil in the world.  Noah went NO WHERE at that park without us by his side at all times.  People are just crazy.  You have to protect your children, they are a blessing.

We built a tent last night in the living room using the couch and some chairs with sheets and blankets.  Once we tried a few designs I have to admit our final design was pretty good.  We moved the TV over and we had our pizza supper in the tent as we watched cartoons.  Noah had a blast.

It was a fun way to spend the night and beat the heat outside.  We put all of our pillows and blankets down and just hung out for the night and then we even slept in the tent (until about 1:00 and then he decided the bed might be better!).

Sometimes the simple things can be fun and kids love it.  I actually had a pretty good time too once we got settled.  We even had a wild cat from the jungle that kept attacking our tent from the top and crashing into us!  We had to finally lock her up for a while!  It was exciting stuff.

We may get back in the tent tonight, but we haven’t decided yet.  He wanted to think about it!  We used the back of the couch and draped sheets over to the top of chairs and used heavy books to hold down the sheets.  It was easy and fun. 

If you get a chance build a tent and hang out; it’s better than sweating in the heat and being exhausted when you come in for the night!

This congratulations goes out to my niece who recently passed her LPN test to officially become a nurse!  She is going to going on to get her RN degree, but I’m already impressed by her ability to earn the LPN degree.

It was a long haul full of studying, working and taking care of a household and she is one hardworking gal!  Her ability to do all of these things AND maintain her great attitude proves she will make a fantastic nurse.  Anyone would be lucky to have her take care of them.  Just ask Noah, to him Aunt Cheryl is the BEST! 

Congratulations and good luck moving forward, getting a job and pursuing your RN degree!

NJ Housewives

And I thought I was in debt!  I’m glad I’m not this chic’s neighbor and I’m not trying to keep up with her; can you imagine?  This article is just something else right?  Can you imagine being 11M in debt?  I would be freaking out!  So much for me Mafia theory because I’m thinking they wouldn’t be in that much debt if they had the Mafia behind them!

That house they live in is unbelievable, but I can’t imagine building and decorating a house if you can’t even begin to afford it.  What are people thinking?  She is crazy clothes shopping all the time and I guess we will see how it all unfolds!  I just can’t imagine being 11M in debt.  I haven’t watched the show for weeks, but I will have to check it out in the next few weeks to see if they say anything about it.

Nice debt problem!

 In today’s economic state we all are trying to watch our money, use coupons, eat at home, buy non-brand names at the store, travel less, etc.  I understand and I’m doing the same to help my budget as well.

Every once in a while though we all deserve a treat and when you find such a treat you should share the knowledge with the world.  I mentioned this earlier in an entry, but I want to share it again.  This is by far the BEST ice cream cake ever and if you haven’t ever tried one; you must.

They aren’t cheap; I will warn you in advance, but then again you pay for what you get.  It’s no Dairy Queen ice cream cake I can tell you that!  This is real, fresh cake with cookies and cream ice cream and the icing on the cake is whipped and fresh.  The combination of these items is just an amazing taste that explodes in your mouth and makes you want to dance with joy!

Yep, and I’m not even an ice cream fan!  It’s yummy, happy, fun and a great way to celebrate any event!  We don’t have a store in Indiana, but there are 3 locations in KY just in case you want to check it out.  It’s worth the drive too!

Father’s Day is coming this weekend so are you ready to praise dear old Dad?  My dad is a one of a kind!  If you know him then you know this to be a true statement.  He is Bob with 2 B’s 

Growing up I have to say that I had a basic “Leave it to Beaver” family life.  It was very close to perfect.  We had a great set of parents, we always had fun, we were treated wonderfully and our parents always enjoyed us being around them. 

My dad was the kind of guy that participated in our lives.  He practiced my sports with me, played with me, taught me things about nature, life, history, family and so much more.  He never missed any sporting event that I had and trust me you knew when he was there!  I was fortunate to have a great father growing up and to this day I still ask him questions about things in my life and I KNOW I’m fortunate to have him in my life.

It’s awesome to have Father’s Day to celebrate your dad, but remember to celebrate them all throughout the year.  Also remember to celebrate Uncle’s, Brother-in-laws, Grandpa’s and any other important men in the families lives!  It’s takes a village to raise a family and all men should be appreciated when it comes to Father’s Day if they help out!

Happy Father’s Day Weekend to all!

IT’S HIGH TODAY IN MY PERSONAL WORLD; USUSUALLY I HAVE TO USE THIS IN MY WORK WORLD, BUT TODAY THIS IS FOR MY PERSONAL LIFE.  IT’S RUNNING HIGH WITH PEOPLE IN MY PERSONAL LIFE. 

SOMETIMES I WONDER HOW I LIVE THE LIFE I LIVE!